I always complain that I didn’t know any feminists growing up in Buffalo. But these days, you can join a feminist club that is spending a few weeks reading Marisa’s book. Then you can go to an Ani DiFranco concert with your new friends. Almost jealous.
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Last October, Marisa emailed me the press release to Lilith Fair with the message “We’re obvs going to this together. Maybe Jon will come.” I responded “OH MY GOD I am dying of excitement. Excitement that I didn’t feel about Lilith in the 90s. SO PSYCHED!”
We spent the last 10 months preparing for the day that, according to Marisa, would be “somehow really important for both of us.” I listened to a lot of Sarah McLachlan. Marisa talked up Lilith in interviews for her book, Girl Power, and pondered her clothing options, noting, “it might be a matter of how much tie dye I want to wear in one outfit.”
On August 1st, we went to the Lilith in Hatford, Connecticut. Jon has already had his say about it. Here, Marisa and I kinda, sorta give our own review as we chat about the allure of free tampons; how selling condoms isnt very 90s; Amy Ray’s hotness; and more.
Marisa: So Lilith. Where to even begin?
Kara: We could begin with the tailgating Connecticut lesbians who warmed our hearts upon entrance. Our cargo-shorted sisters.
Marisa: I only wish I had played beer pong with them. Confession: I have never played beer pong.
Kara: After we admired the tailgaters we went and walked around and came across the Lilipad.
Marisa: Omg, the Lilipad. Sponsored by ob, stay free and one other… carefree?
Kara: Maybe. I was mostly interested in ob, my favorite. You were pretty psyched. We left Jon outside so that we could go gather up free tampons.
Marisa: Why aren’t tampons always free? If men menstruated, would tampons be free?
Kara: Whoa. That is a really deep and important thought. That reminds me of the flavored condoms that Planned Parenthood was selling.
Marisa: Selling condoms is not very 90s, in my opinion. I’m pretty sure I didn’t pay for condoms once during the 90s. There were free condoms everywhere. Was that a college town thing?
Ada, I wanted to post a few of my favorite links to stories and posts about Marisa’s book on the 90s, feminism, and music.
This is partly because Girl Power is about many of the issues we talk about here; partly because Marisa is my friend and co-author and one of the big messages of 90s feminism was that girls should support one another; and partly because I am trying to bury that mortifying fireman post I still can’t believe you talked me into. (But what’s more 90swoman than embracing public humiliation?)
Anyway, here are some of my favorite things Marisa said in some of her interviews that are not necessarily representative, although they may be representative of why I like her.
On the preponderance of female frontwomen with guy bands (ie. No Doubt) in Salon: “It’s like when friends change their names when they get married. I don’t think they are bad people, but there’s this little part of me that just wishes it were a little different.”
So, Ada, I was telling you last night about the great panel I went to on 90s feminism and I thought I would write some of it down. For posterity! The irony of the event is that there was a lot of great discussion about the importance of archiving feminist history, and yet…no one filmed it. I take some solace in this twitter feed.
Anyway, the lineup included our friend, fellow panelist, How Sassy Changed My Life co-author and Girl Power author Marisa Meltzer; me and Marisa’s friend and book editor Denise Oswald; and Bratmobile member/riot grrrl Allison Wolfe.
I loved hearing everyone talk about their early experiences of feminism. And I was psyched about the discussion of how women need to keep track of our own history so we aren’t always starting over from scratch. (Hence this blog!)
This is just a quick list of a few of the other things I found most moving/interesting for us to maybe just think about, maybe eventually talk about:
ALSO: we have emailed about how we are going to start a book club. On deck to discuss: “Marry Him” by Lori Gottleib, and “Girl Power” by Marisa Meltzer. I figured I’d post our idea here so (1) people could write in with book suggestions, and (2) we would actually do it.
Also, I just Googled “Marry Him” to get the book cover, and got this. I don’t know why I would even care, but I was kind of shocked by it (spokesperson denies it, btw):
Did Bikini Kill change your life? Kathleen Hanna’s started a site that collects BK testimonies. Details are here. There are also some amazing videos on their YouTube channel. I just sent in my post, and it’s posted here. And I’ll copy and paste it here, too:
In 1993, when I was 17, I was interning at SPIN magazine. One week, right after my first serious boyfriend (a repeat-reader of On the Road) had cheated on and broken up with me, I was cat-sitting for a guy I worked with who later OD’d and died. His apartment, a studio on 5th Street between Avenue A and B, had a pile of zines and comics (and a litter of kittens who slept in a cat bed under the sink). Continue reading