The 1991 “Antioch Rules,” created by a group called Womyn of Antioch, became the punch line of the ’90s, especially after it was mocked in the shockingly topical and shrewdly written 1993 SNL skit “Is it Date Rape?” (transcript here; sample: “Dean Frederick Whitcomb: Welcome, players. Let’s take a look at our board. The categories are: “Halter Top”; “She Was Drunk”; “I Was Drunk”; “Kegger”; “Off-Campus Kegger”; “She Led Me On”; “I Paid For Dinner”: and “Ragin’ Kegger”. Alright. Ariel, you’re our champion, the board is yours.”). I couldn’t find the skit on YouTube, so here instead is Nirvana doing “Rape Me” on SNL. Continue reading
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Kara, I was recently on NPR’s “Tell Me More” for my new book (everyone, buy it here!), and Michel Martin asked me about talking to kids about race. She mentioned the great chapter of the new book NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children, which says that not talking about race makes kids self-segregate.
Essentially, even if like us you live in a diverse neighborhood, in a diverse city and have a diverse group of friends, if you’re white and don’t explicitly tell your kids that people of other races are okay, they will resort to some kind of tribalism and only hang out with other white kids.
Now, the 90s were super weird about race. On one hand, because of all the consciousness raising, inside of the feminist movement I saw a weird fetishizing of outsider status, like in theory you had more credibility if you were of color, (or gay, or an abuse survivor, etc.). Identity politics got kind of weirdly competitive.
At the same time, it seemed like middle-class white feminists were kind of writing the script, and most of the books, and setting the agenda, often oblivious to the fact that women of color had issues that were not addressed by what was being called mainstream feminism.
This tension lives on in strange ways. Once I gave a lecture on theater at a super “progressive” college and got jumped in the question and answer period. They kept asking me about minstrelsy because I showed a video of the Wau Wau Sisters, a bawdy trapeze act, and they kept saying things like, “Would Kiki and Herb have performed at Carnegie Hall if they were BLACK?!” (First of all, lots of black people have performed at Carnegie Hall. Second of all, K &H were gay, poor and at least somewhat trans. Third, I was there just to show some videos of what was going on in the downtown NYC scene, not to justify it on a personal-is-political purity scale.) Continue reading
For three dollars, you can download Lisa Carver’s original, disturbing “Suckdog Love Booklet” from Nutmusic. There is horrific hate speech in it (Lisa famously performed with Jean-Louis Costes and Psychodrama), lots of talk about violence, and some gems of 90s music history.
In a SPIN interview reprinted here, Robert Christgau, says of Suckdog, “Why should anything you’ve said make me want to go see this group?”
Lisa writes on Nutmusic’s website something that puts the booklet into some context, and provides as lucid an explanation of Suckdog, extreme zine culture and the 90s vs. today as anything I’ve seen. Here’s how it opens: Continue reading