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Let’s Talk About Sex

So, Ada, we had a great interview today with Dr. Elizabeth Keenan, who is working on a book about 90s nostalgia. One of our favorite topics! We ended up talking a lot about sex. One of our other favorite topics!

On that tip, I finally forced myself to read the Caitlin Flanagan article that neither of us could initially bear. It’s mainly about the dangers of today’s hookup culture, a subject that has really already been covered ad nauseam.  One of my problems with this piece is that much of it is based on adult paranoia, rather than what is really going on with teenagers. (This is something I wrote about for you once, back when Oprah was losing her mind over so-called “rainbow parties.”)

My even bigger problem with the piece is that Flanagan assumes that teenage girls don’t really experience sexual desire. Instead, they are natural romantics who have been “forced into a sexual knowingness.” She also says that: “Unlike the girls of my era, who looked forward to sex, not as a physical pleasure (although it would—eventually—become that for most of us), but as a way of becoming ever closer to our boyfriends, these girls are preparing themselves for acts and experiences that are frightening, embarrassing, uncomfortable at best, painful at worst. These girls aren’t embracing sex, all evidence to the contrary. They’re terrified of it.”

To all of this I say: speak for yourself, lady.

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Bridget Everett’s Show Was Incredible

What You Were Doing Tuesday Night


Kara, when Bridget Everett sang “You Oughta Know” at her show on Tuesday night at Joe’s Pub I almost called you so you could listen, but I thought that might be mean cause I knew you were home reading Heidegger for school.

She did thrilling pop covers with her band (which included Adrock playing bass of all things) and told stories about her fucked-up childhood, death, and learning on Facebook, on Valentine’s Day, that she was being cheated on.

I didn’t see anyone tape it, alas, so I don’t have any YouTube to put up, but here are a couple of photos.

I have to say even if you want to take Karen Finley and Marina Abramovic off the table, female performance art is in fine shape.

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